January 23, 2008

Some things are true!!!

When I was little; as an young enough to believe all the things my dad used to teach me, one of the things he repeatedly told, was that one should always behave morally and ethically as per one’s principles, “… because people respond to sincerity, and will tend to act the same way in return” he always added.

When he first said it, I was too young and naive to argue; in addition, baba was that scary figure one could never dare to argue with. However, as a teenager, I insisted on making the argument “but what if I am dealing with people who have no regard whatsoever for morals or ethics??”… He would look at me in disgust and say “would you rather be like them, then, is that what you want??”… his tone was always too intimidating, I would back down but refrain from hiding the look that shows that I still had more to say, so he would add in a calmer, yet blaming tone “when dealing with such people, it is exactly the time you have to stick to your morals and ethics, because this is when it means you actually believed in them; this way, you will never lose”....

As poetic as he sounded whenever he said those words, something always made it hard for me to accept that shitty people get to be treated well by me, or by any good person that is. All through the past years, this thought always weakened my logic and made me hate that I am always supposed to act upon my own principles and values when faced by situations when I could twist them a little to give people what they deserve.

Until today! It actually worked!!!! I mean I did something I believed I should do, corrected a mistake I no longer had a reason to keep on doing, and I got a similar feedback!!!

Now the person who gave me that feedback is not a bad person, I have no category for that person to begin with, but the feedback I got gave me a better perspective. It is true! What baba had initially said is right; when you act in a certain way, people respond accordingly… and when they don’t, you haven’t lost anything really… as a matter of fact you only won self respect for doing the right thing, or at least what you think is right…

And oh oh, I love my dad!!! I promise I won’t make fun of anything embarrassing he does, at least until his birthday!!

On another note, this post was supposed to be 3 short paragraphs at most! Boy am I talkative!!

12 comments:

Deeeeeee said...

You know what, my dad is more of a father figure than he is a dad. He's that person you have to smile when you talk about, someone you'd look up to, and he's righteous awii about everything he does and everything he says... he's human of course with millions of flaws and gets on my nerves on weekly basis, but the way he handles stuff really makes me proud of him, and one of the things he always says is "لا يصح إلا الصحيح" ...and I believe him, I believe that you reap what you sow and all this stuff and that life is an overall fair experience to you, but that you have to go through the bad and be patient to deserve and appreciate the good.
Looks like you're not the only one who's talkative! :)

insomniac said...

i think your dad and mine have so much in common, they way you talked about urs sounds like how i talk about mine! and the "la yasse7 ell al sa7ee7" phrase, one of baba's favorites!!!!

i am an inquisitive person, it takes me forever to finally believe certain things... but i do share those beliefs u mentioned, i just didn't know i did before!!

i like talkative, as long as there is something important/interesting being said... but can u say that about my kind of talkative?

Geddo Iskandar said...

no, you are not talkative ...

... or may be a little :)

but certainly you LOVE your dad ... rabena y7`alyh :))

insomniac said...

hehe, la2 geddo, enta elly mesh talkative, see how short ur comment is :))))

ameeen :o)

Nora said...

Your dad sounds like a great man...

Anonymous said...

nice post insomniac! Thank you for your kind comments on my blog btw...I hope you continue to visit regularly :-)

insomniac said...

Nora, he is! it's a shame, it took me my teenage years to find out..


Arima, welcome to my blog.. glad u enjoyed the post... will definitely continue dropping by your blog :)

Nora said...

Don't worry.. I'm still trying to figure that out about my dad...
:o)

Anonymous said...

Some babas are real babas :)

Nora said...

What is a real baba?
:o)

insomniac said...

i know the x is not a real baba, whatever that is

Nora said...

I don't know the X and I am certain he is not either!