When I was little; as an young enough to believe all the things my dad used to teach me, one of the things he repeatedly told, was that one should always behave morally and ethically as per one’s principles, “… because people respond to sincerity, and will tend to act the same way in return” he always added.
When he first said it, I was too young and naive to argue; in addition, baba was that scary figure one could never dare to argue with. However, as a teenager, I insisted on making the argument “but what if I am dealing with people who have no regard whatsoever for morals or ethics??”… He would look at me in disgust and say “would you rather be like them, then, is that what you want??”… his tone was always too intimidating, I would back down but refrain from hiding the look that shows that I still had more to say, so he would add in a calmer, yet blaming tone “when dealing with such people, it is exactly the time you have to stick to your morals and ethics, because this is when it means you actually believed in them; this way, you will never lose”....
As poetic as he sounded whenever he said those words, something always made it hard for me to accept that shitty people get to be treated well by me, or by any good person that is. All through the past years, this thought always weakened my logic and made me hate that I am always supposed to act upon my own principles and values when faced by situations when I could twist them a little to give people what they deserve.
Until today! It actually worked!!!! I mean I did something I believed I should do, corrected a mistake I no longer had a reason to keep on doing, and I got a similar feedback!!!
Now the person who gave me that feedback is not a bad person, I have no category for that person to begin with, but the feedback I got gave me a better perspective. It is true! What baba had initially said is right; when you act in a certain way, people respond accordingly… and when they don’t, you haven’t lost anything really… as a matter of fact you only won self respect for doing the right thing, or at least what you think is right…
And oh oh, I love my dad!!! I promise I won’t make fun of anything embarrassing he does, at least until his birthday!!
On another note, this post was supposed to be 3 short paragraphs at most! Boy am I talkative!!