tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post1976508888308173660..comments2023-09-04T15:08:41.137+03:00Comments on My Oblivia: 1… 2… 3…insomniachttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10143064182385250795noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post-36484708649136648632008-04-20T12:09:00.000+02:002008-04-20T12:09:00.000+02:00badr,could u be any more discouraging man!! well, ...badr,<BR/><BR/>could u be any more discouraging man!! <BR/><BR/>well, as a matter of fact, ur words also mean that i should do whatever i think is right since the whole divorce is getting to my kids anyway, so damage control should be my focus!!<BR/><BR/>the suing is just UGLY... i wish i had it differently thoinsomniachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10143064182385250795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post-30095966593624021952008-04-19T13:25:00.000+02:002008-04-19T13:25:00.000+02:00My family's favorite sport is divorce and then sui...My family's favorite sport is divorce and then suing each other for a couple of years. Family as i know it is a terrible terrible thing that you'r better off without. Anyway i'm too a child of a broken home. And no matter what you'll say or do you'll children will end up scarred for life.Badrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14396935658404561685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post-86121806135290259872008-04-14T10:05:00.000+02:002008-04-14T10:05:00.000+02:00Daysleeper, thanks for telling me my kids will und...Daysleeper, <BR/><BR/>thanks for telling me my kids will understand, i really need more people telling me that, and you just sound more credible than my parents at this point :))<BR/><BR/>S is one of the people who constantly tell me i have character, but she has also seen how childish i get when i am overwhelmed... <BR/><BR/>i think one of the things that were getting to me is that i know i am not being there for my kids all the time yet. i get my own selfish moments, and i am so aware of them, i kinda dislike myself for it!<BR/><BR/>LOL @ the bamya, i really laughed... let's say he was really good at messing with my head... this is basically why i HAD TO get out :)<BR/><BR/>*hugging back*insomniachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10143064182385250795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post-47941128937532692992008-04-14T09:46:00.000+02:002008-04-14T09:46:00.000+02:00eventuality, Thank you very much dear for all the ...eventuality, <BR/><BR/>Thank you very much dear for all the nice and encouraging words. <BR/><BR/>i am sure i have come to the right decision, at least the right one for me, that's a place to start, no? it's not about certainty for me, it's more about people letting me have my peace with it. <BR/><BR/>i wish i could just tell this to everyone who gives me the "talk": what if i had stayed? we ba3deen? what kind of life was i giving my kids? that won't change him, or me!! i learned the hard way that you do not change people by doing what does not conform with who you are or what you believe in... <BR/><BR/>i just wish people would pause and think before they scare me with big words like "consequences"...<BR/><BR/>you're right, they would say anything to make me doubt myself... i would respect it more if they actually thought it through and still found it logical enough to be said out loud!insomniachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10143064182385250795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post-37640242774780122872008-04-13T23:34:00.000+02:002008-04-13T23:34:00.000+02:00as the daughter of insane people who compromised '...as the daughter of insane people who compromised 'for the kids' -- i would like to say an unhappy marriage is NEVER in the kids' best interests. kids are smart, they can sense what's going on and they need to see a mama who can stand on her own two feet.<BR/><BR/>and believe me, someone who says enty mesh 3a2la awy has obviously never read this blog or sat down to have a talk with your insides-- cause they're AMAZING and strong<BR/><BR/>my friend studies, works and is in the process of a divorce but because these are all her choices, and because she enjoys them she has enough room in her head and her heart to be there for her kids<BR/><BR/>my mom...who was/is there ALL THE FREAKIN TIME can't talk to me because if i ever feel like sharing something i realize how much burden she has<BR/><BR/>i love my parents but i wish they'd chosen to be happy. and your kids will understand too.<BR/><BR/>also-- that guy is SO manipulative. okay even if you WERENT the perfect robot housewife that is NO excuse for what he did. seriously? 'you didn't put enough salt in the bamya, i have to go check out women now' COME ON!<BR/><BR/>don't doubt yourself and let it out because it will be okay. everythings going to be fine because you're strong enough to make the changes until it's fine-- and that's what it takes. *HUG*Daysleeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17941163015179984899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3014953887294814940.post-29632819667680205122008-04-13T18:08:00.000+02:002008-04-13T18:08:00.000+02:00Your words got to me so much. If I could extend a ...Your words got to me so much. If I could extend a warm hug to you I would, begad. I understand how you feel, not because my experience was the same, but because I really identify with all the confusion you're going through because of the people around you and because of your own thoughts.<BR/><BR/>You know, the things is, there's no easy way out. It is difficult. But it will get better. It's just that it needs so much determination and holding on. You're going to have to hold on to what you believe in really hard and shield it from the gushing wind that's coming your way.<BR/><BR/>People will talk, hell that's all they do. But it's YOUR life. You are the one who will live with your own decisions. And from my experience with divorce, people are willing to say anything to change your mind, because the mere idea of divorce is synonymous to death for them. Of course it's different in your case because you have kids, which I don't, but then again you're their mother and you want and know what's best for them, even if others think differently.<BR/><BR/>As long as your mind is made up and you think there's no other way, then hold on real tight. It's going to be a rough ride, full of confusion and sometimes doubt. Just turn up the volume on that little voice in your head that is encouraging you to push forward and believe in yourself. It'll be worth it in the end.Eventualityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01462468168665719164noreply@blogger.com